In a recent press release from the University of Loyola , School of Medicine, Facebook has been recorded as a cause in 20% of divorces. That means when 1 in 5 marriages end, they site Facebook when filing for reason of divorce!
The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers have recorded Facebook as being the primary cause of 66% of failed marriages and that 80% of divorce lawyers have seen an increase in social networks playing a role in the splits.
Are these social network dangerous for your marriage?
“I don’t think these people typically set out to have affairs. A lot of it is curiosity. They see an old friend or someone they dated and decide to say ‘hello’ and catch up on whee that person is and how they’re doing.” says Dr. Steven Kimmons. The licensed clinical psychologist of Loyola U Medical Center includes marriage and spousal counseling in his practice.
Although, on-the-rocks couples are more at risk, the online contact can affect anyone negatively. The more interaction will a person the higher the chances are of developing an interest or feelings. If you talk with a person 5 times a week, there is a good chance feelings, emotional or platonic, are there.
Personally I do not think Facebook is causing divorce, it is not forcing people to carry secrets and it does not create infidelity. It does, however, create a very accessible platform for doing so. Social networks are an extremely easy way for people to meet people, hence the whole purpose of social networking. I am sure the statistics of relationships formed from online networks are just as dramatic. But with the contact being right at your fingertips, it forms a lot of interaction you may never of thought you’d have without it, even in a marriage.
It is important not to take advantage of the ease, and keep your head on straight. Just because it seems simple and harmless to write emails and share links, or whatever it is you do online, if you’re up at 3 am instant messaging or constantly changing your password you might have to re-think the innocence of the situation. A good “Facebook won’t kill my marriage” rule, if you wouldn’t share it on your wall.. You probably shouldn’t share it at all.